I became a Life Coach at a time when that form of coaching was relatively new, and I practiced life coaching for almost ten years.
One day when I was coaching a client, she shared a troubling thought with me, and we spent the entire session processing, and basically dismantling a negative and fear-based thought that had been haunting her for most of her life.
During that session, I found myself having a pressing desire to ask her the question: “says who”?, which basically was intended for her to stop and ask herself: “who is saying this thought in your mind”?
When I asked her that one question, it literally stopped her in her tracks, as if there was some kind of cognitive connection being made for the very first time regarding this troubling thought she had been at the effect of for so many years.
The whole idea of questioning, or what I like to call “challenging our negative and fear-based thoughts” is what caused an epiphany for my client, and from our session together, the Says Who? Method was created.
During my session with her, it was as if I too was having an epiphany, and was guided to ask my client more questions that she had never thought to ask herself about this one fear-based thought that had so much power over her for such a long time. I went on to ask her a few more questions, which became part of the 7 questions of the Says Who? Method™.
The breakthrough that my client had by my asking her the Says Who? questions was life changing for her, and I knew that I had stumbled upon something that was deeply effective for changing one’s life.